Focus on what you have, not what you lack

Focus on the gains, not the losses

Focus on what you have, not what you lack

Focus on the positives, not on the negatives

I have to wear glasses, and stupidly I was stubborn enough to go a whole ass year without wearing either glasses or contacts. I literally forgot what the world looked like. Until last week. The first time I wore contacts outside, I knew magic existed after all. Because holy hell you do not realise how beautiful everything is! I mean I was getting a little teary for a second there just looking at the stars…I literally haven’t seen them in a year. You people with clear vision…I’m jealous. With clear vision, you can see each and every leaf on a tree, you can see lines sharply and intricate detail from so far away – hell, even the colours are brighter. 

And so, that day, when I had to take out the contacts, I realised how bad my vision really was. And I started crying…a lot. Because I realised how much I had missed of the world. All this time, when I had denied myself vision just because I hated glasses and I couldn’t be bothered to get contacts; it seemed like such a hassle, to have to wear a new pair every single day, not to mention a complete waste – like the environment won’t be doing too well with all that plastic. I mean, I still kinda feel that way, but I know now that it’s worth it. I just felt kinda awful- it was really sad to me that while I had these lenses in, it was as if my eyes were completely normal, that I could see without anything at all. Because I could forget they were even there. But then the time comes every day without fail, the time to take them out, the time when I just have to accept that life is a blurry blob, and that’s the reality. My reality. But I’ve learnt to change tack; instead of thinking about what I can’t see without them, I’m making an effort to focus on what I can see. It really pisses me off when people are like ‘dude you’re so blind,’ like bitch I ain’t blind I can see a lot of things: light and shade, colours, textures and patterns and lines…just no detail from far away. If you think about all that you can see, it’s not so bad. I can actually see a lot. It’s actually, abundant. And when I think of it that way, I’m lucky to have vision. I’m lucky to be able to see what I can. And I’m no longer sad about how much I have missed all this time, because it made me appreciate life. I’m telling you, you should have seen my face I was literally staring in awe at a damn boring ass brick building because I didn’t realise they looked like that. I also stared at myself in the mirror, and I was like wow. I didn’t even know what I looked like from far away. It’s different. 😂

So what have you been wanting in your life, and resenting that you don’t have it? What lack have you been focusing on? What if you were to change the way you think about it?

If you want more money, why don’t you focus on the money that you already have? You have money, therefore you have something. Something to be grateful about. If you’ve gone through a tough time, and you’re focusing on all the trauma it did to you, or all the things you have lost, why don’t you focus on the positive things you have gained? Because every experience that we have is a lesson, and can teach you more than you think. Try to pick apart and extract the lessons from situations or even people that have made you feel like shit or turned your life upside down in a negative way. It made you stronger, it made you turn inwards, it gave you a different perspective on life. The more you focus on the positives, the better you will feel. The more you focus on what you have in your life, the more fulfilled you will feel. The more you realise what you have, the more you have the ability to be grateful for those things, for your life, for your living. 

Go around your home, and take the time to notice. Simply acknowledge all the things that you have. Hell, even the fact that you have a home. You have walls that hold up the ceiling, the ceiling that prevents rain from soaking you. You have windows to look through, to let the sun and the light in. 

The air you breathe. 

The food you eat.

The people, in your life. 

You are abundant. 

Notice that. 

And notice what it feels like, to be abundant. 

Thank you so much for reading! I really hope this helped shift your perspective on life, or at least give you the motivation to work on shifting yours. When you think of something you lack, write it down, and right next to that, write down 3 things that you have – even if it’s totally unrelated. Morning affirmations for positivity will also help to shift a negative mindset, and practising gratitude meditation or simply saying thank you for one thing in your life every single day will have an enormous impact on your mindset as well. 

May you be peaceful, and live with an open, grateful heart. 


Lanie ❤️

Published by Lanie

Hello! I'm a 17 year old writer/poet from London, my favourite colour is lilac, and I guess my biggest aim is to help people love and value themselves - to see their inherent worthiness. I hope you enjoy my content!

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